change is a choice

he always talked about how he had lost her. how it had been out of his control. she had stopped calling. she had stopped returning his phone calls. after awhile... she wouldn't pick up his calls. thanksgiving and christmas vacations would come and go - he would see her at the occasional party but she never let him get close. she always found a reason to leave. something to occupy her attention so that he could not interrupt. yes he lost her. sometimes, no matter how hard you hold on. how bad you want something. its just not possible. people change. and there is nothing you can do to stop it.

she felt suffocated. weighed down by the constant nagging voice. it was her life. the decisions she was making were hers to have. who was to tell her different? she couldn't take it. the criticism. the guilt. the voice on the other end of the phone telling her she was wrong. that she was making a lot of mistakes. that she was headed the wrong direction. it had to stop. the friendship that was hurting more than helping. she needed someone to lean on - not someone trying to hold her back. it hurt more than anyone will ever know. to end something that once meant so much is never easy. no matter if its the right thing or not. change is hard. but its a part of life. and so - she let go.

people are criticized for going from relationship to relationship. but maybe it was something he needed. the touch of a woman. someone to call his. a girl who was more than a friend. dating was something he did for himself. despite everyone else's opinions, he went for who he thought would make him happy. time after time. and when one ended - he was always back looking soon after. and you can't help but wonder - when will it stop? when will he finally find the girl who will never leave him. the relationship that will never end. when will the girl in his life stop changing. when... will he find what he is looking for?

she is ready. and she is waiting for her moment. she has given up on prince charming. a knight in shining armor. all that jazz. she just wants someone who loves her. who treasures her more than anything. she's not asking for anything fancy. simplicity and sincerity are fine. she just wants to hear she is beautiful. someone who will hold her for hours - and never want to let go. a man who is honest. kind. tender-hearted. with eyes that sparkle. and a smile that is contagious. a sense of humor. she is ready for a man who will be her best friend. someone who knows how to communicate. and who will listen. a man who loves God. and who was designed just for her. someone who fits. she still has some waiting to do - but she is willing. and when the day comes - that will be a change she will always be grateful for.

sometimes people change. and sometimes they don't. making a change in life is a choice. people can always change - its not a matter of "can". its a matter of "will". and sometimes its easier to stay the same. but if you really want something, and if you're willing to take a risk - you could find that change could be the best thing that ever happened to you.

but like i said. its your choice.